Congrats on Deciding to Become a Surrogate but Now What?
Wow, first of all lets take a moment to celebrate the decision to become a surrogate! This is such a big thing and a point to start celebrating yourself. So first things first, you’ve now made the choice and hopefully all of your research has landed you to a great agency so you can get started. So I’m going to take you along the beginning process I went through with New York Surrogacy Agency. First I had set up a time to speak with Joe who is the main point of contact for surrogates so that I could ask questions
Matching 🖤
I can't find any other word but "giddy" to describe how I felt when I received the first draft of my surrogate profile. It was all becoming so real!! The profile was created using my answers from my initial application to NYSC and contained a photo, basic demographics, my hobbies/interests, a medical history overview, the cost of my monthly (surrogacy friendly!) health insurance premium, a brief social history, surrogacy terms such as transfer attempts and feelings on termination/reduction, and blurbs on why I want to be a surrogate and how I'd describe my ideal Intended Parent(s). It was really important to
Pregnancy: Month 2
Month 2 took an unexpected turn. We learned at our 7 week ultrasound checkup that there was only one heartbeat. Unfortunately, Baby B didn't make it. As devastated as I was to be going through the emotions of this for the very first time, my heart literally broke for both of the parents. This was a loss that my IPs had become far too accustomed to and not at all what I wanted them to experience during our journey together. In a sense, I felt like I had failed them. It shifted my perspective a great deal and made me
The Matching Process
Have you ever had it set in your mind what your perfect match would be like? Well as I was gearing up for journey number 2, I had a lot of boxes to check off of my list for this match. I thought the biggest box on my list was to only match with a same-sex couple. I remember when it came time to view profiles I told Joe, only same-sex. Well, I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and with that being said, the same-sex just wasn’t the one this time. So, after much talking, I
Pregnancy: Month 8
Well month 8 has been interesting to say the least! The intended fathers and I had a “maternity” photoshoot, and when I posted some of those photos on TikTok, it went viral. Then it got picked up on other social media platforms and let’s just say that a lot of people don’t understand what surrogacy is. However, overall, the reception was overwhelmingly positive! With just a couple weeks left before I deliver, baby girl is putting a lot of pressure on my pelvis. Most days I’m fairly uncomfortable, although a support band does help a bit. Sleep can be hard
